Couples Therapy

Relating is a skill.

We help you design the relational structure your connection deserves, and gently retire the default one you may have outgrown.

Couples therapy is not about deciding who is right.

It is about learning how to stay connected when you are activated, misattuned, exhausted or afraid, and building practical structures that make repair possible.

At The Rewilding Collective, we offer trauma-informed couples therapy for partners who want to strengthen communication, rebuild trust where possible, and create a relationship that can better hold the lives they are actually living.

A relationship is never just two people

Many couples are carrying more than the relationship was ever designed to hold alone.

Today, committed relationships are often expected to provide emotional safety, friendship, sexual connection, shared parenting, financial partnership, family continuity, identity support and future direction, often without much of the village around them.

When pressure builds, the relationship can become the place where everything lands.

Couples therapy gives you a supported space to slow the pattern down, understand what is happening beneath the conflict, and practise new ways of responding before rupture becomes the only language available.

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Who this is for

Couples therapy may support you if you are navigating:

  • recurring conflict cycles you cannot seem to break

  • shutdown, distance, resentment or emotional disconnection

  • rupture, betrayal, loss of trust or repair after harm

  • nervous system dysregulation, trauma history or attachment wounds

  • neurodivergence and differing needs around communication, intimacy, sensory load or recovery time

  • major life transitions such as parenthood, grief, illness, relocation or career stress

  • changes in identity, gender, sexuality, values or relational needs

  • a sense that the relationship still matters, but the current structure is no longer working

If you are unsure whether couples therapy is the right fit, reach out. We can help you map the most appropriate pathway.

If one partner is already working with TRC

Yes, TRC may be able to support couples where one partner is already engaged with our practice.

To protect psychological safety and reduce the risk of imbalance, we may ask the other partner to attend one or two individual appointments before commencing couples sessions.

This helps us establish rapport, understand each person’s context, and assess whether couples therapy at TRC is clinically and ethically appropriate.

Where there are risks, conflicts of interest, safety concerns, or limits to what we can hold well, TRC may recommend another pathway or referral.

Coherence without fragmentation

Why we may hold individual and couples work together

Many psychology practices will not see each partner separately once couples work begins. That boundary exists for good reason.

In high-charge relational systems, there is a real risk of splitting, triangulation and fragmentation when a clinician is holding multiple perspectives at once.

At The Rewilding Collective, our model of care is explicitly ecological.

We are trained to work with people in context: nervous system, attachment, neurobiology, family system, culture, power, history and environment.

  • This means we may be able to hold individual and relational work together without collapsing the work into “sides.”

    Our task is not to become the advocate for one partner against the other.

    Our task is to hold the whole system clearly enough that each person can see what is happening, what is needed, what belongs to them, and what belongs to the relationship.

    This is what we mean by coherence without fragmentation.

    We hold the murkiness without collapsing into it, while still bringing clarity to the structure of the work.

    This does not mean this model is suitable for every couple. Where there are safety concerns, coercive control, unmanaged risk, significant conflict of interest or clinical limits, we may recommend separate practitioners, additional supports or another service pathway.

How we structure couples work

Most couples work best with a repeatable cadence that supports both the relationship and each individual.

Our typical rhythm may be:

  1. Individual session with Partner A

  2. Individual session with Partner B

  3. Couples session together

  4. Review and repeat as clinically appropriate

This structure matters.

It gives each partner space to:

  • integrate new relational structures in their own way

  • work through individual barriers that may not be shared by their partner

  • build self-regulation and reflective capacity, so the couples session is not the only container

  • identify their own protective strategies, triggers and patterns

  • bring clearer insight, accountability and language back into the relationship

Couples sessions then become a place to practise, not just to process.

How we work with relational change

Many therapy models work across two layers:

  • the internal architecture, including emotion, cognition, memory and identity

  • the relational architecture, including attachment, boundaries, communication, rupture and repair

But change often becomes difficult for one reason:

Insight arrives intellectually, and the body does not yet feel safe enough to follow.

So our work includes the missing layer: the conditions under which healing in your relationship becomes real and embodied.

  • We work with the somatic and existential architecture of relationship:

    • regulation

    • presence

    • coherence

    • perception

    • meaning

    • responsibility

    • repair

    • the way safety, threat and possibility are experienced between you

    This layer shapes:

    • what each person believes is possible

    • whether the inner world aligns or fragments under pressure

    • when insight begins to turn into behaviour

    • how pain becomes identity, such as “this is who I am” or “this is who you are”

    • whether rupture becomes abandonment, attack, withdrawal or repair

    Without this layer:

    • you can understand the pattern and still repeat it

    • you can name the wound and still relate from it

    • you can learn communication skills and still feel unseen, unheard or unwitnessed

    • you can want repair and still collapse into protection when the moment arrives

    At TRC, couples therapy may help you build:

    • shared language for what is happening beneath the conflict

    • practical communication structures

    • repair protocols

    • boundaries, consent and relational clarity

    • capacity for intimacy, honesty and sustainable partnership

    • a shared map for what is happening within each person, between you, and in the wider ecology of your relationship

    Where clinically appropriate, we may use the Integrated Triadic Convergence, or ITC, model to guide the work.

    This means you are not only talking about feelings. You are building a shared map for what is happening internally, relationally and contextually, so the relationship has a better chance of becoming coherent under pressure.

Booking Instructions

Couples therapy is booked as a group service through our booking system.

This allows both partners to receive booking alerts and appointment notifications.

If you are unsure which service to select, please contact TRC and we will guide you.

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Clear Boundaries

At TRC, we offer therapy, coaching, supervision, spiritual direction and clinical pastoral supervision. Different practitioners specialise in different forms of support.

These services are not interchangeable.

If you are unsure which container is right for you, we can help you choose.

  • Individual psychological services

    Therapy is clinical care. It is designed to assess and treat mental health concerns and psychological distress, including trauma, anxiety, depression and complex presentations.

  • Clinical supervision is profession-specific and focused on clinical governance, ethics, scope of practice, risk, case formulation and safe practice.

  • Coaching is non-clinical and future-focused. It supports performance, leadership, decision-making, and sustainable capacity. It is not designed to treat mental health symptoms.

  • Spiritual Direction is a reflective, sacred container for meaning, discernment, and spiritual integration. It is not a substitute for clinical mental health care.

  • Clinical pastoral supervision integrates theological reflection with philosophical and psychological insight. It supports practitioners to make meaning of their work while maintaining safe, ethical and attuned care.

    It recognises that pastoral and care-based work often involves deep engagement with suffering, existential questions and human vulnerability, and therefore requires ongoing reflective support.

Frequently Asked Questions:

  • Counselling appointments with Querida or Naomi are $180 per hour. A 90-minute couples appointment is therefore $270.

    Couples therapy with Cate, our Clinical Director, is $330 per hour. A 90-minute couples appointment is therefore $495.

    Fees are confirmed at the time of booking and may vary depending on practitioner, appointment length and service type.

  • A GP Mental Health Care Plan may be used for eligible individual therapy sessions, but not for couples therapy sessions.

    Couples therapy is not usually rebateable under Medicare.

    If you have a GP Mental Health Care Plan, you can email it to:

    contact@therewildingcollective.com

    We will add it to your file and let you know whether a Medicare rebate may apply to any eligible individual sessions.

    After the initial number of sessions, your treating clinician may write to your GP about your progress. Your GP will then decide whether further referred sessions are appropriate.

  • Not always.

    If you begin with TRC as a couple, individual sessions may not be required. However, we may recommend one or two individual sessions for each partner where this would support safer and deeper couples work.

    Individual sessions can help each person build regulation, insight and integration, so the couples session is not the only container holding the work.

    Where one partner is already working with TRC individually, we may recommend individual sessions for the other partner before couples therapy begins. This helps protect psychological safety and reduce imbalance.

  • It depends on your goals, the complexity of the pattern and how much support you want around integration.

    Some couples come for targeted support over a short period. Others choose a longer therapeutic arc to rebuild trust, intimacy, communication and repair capacity.

    Relationships also tend to meet pressure points at particular seasons of life. For some couples, these inflection points appear around the 7-year, 15-year, 21-year, or 28 to 30-year marks. These periods can call the relationship into a new container and may show up as rupture cycles, conflict, betrayal, disconnection or endings.

    Couples therapy can help you understand whether the relationship needs repair, restructuring, deeper honesty, or a clearer way forward.

  • Please contact TRC as soon as possible.

    Where clinically appropriate and available, your appointment may be changed to telehealth.

    Cancellation and non-attendance terms may apply where adequate notice is not provided.

  • TRC is a private practice and does not provide emergency, acute psychiatric or 24/7 crisis support.

    If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 000.

    If there is immediate risk, domestic or family violence, coercive control, threats, intimidation, or you do not feel safe, couples therapy may not be the appropriate first step. Safety and specialist support need to come first.

    For urgent support, you may contact:

    • Lifeline: 13 11 14

    • Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800

    • 1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

    • Crisis Care WA: 1800 199 008

    • SARC WA: 08 6458 1828

    • CAMHS Crisis Connect WA: 1800 048 636

Ready to change the pattern, not just talk about it?

If you’re both willing to build new structures, we’ll help you create a relationship that can hold truth, tenderness, and repair.

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