Couples Therapy
Relating is a skill.
We help you design the relational structure your connection deserves (and gently retire the default one that you’ve outgrown).
Couples therapy isn’t about deciding who’s right.
It’s about learning how to stay connected when you’re activated, misattuned, exhausted, or afraid — and building practical structures that make repair possible.
At The Rewilding Collective, we offer trauma-informed couples therapy for partners who want to strengthen communication, rebuild trust, and create a relationship that can actually hold the lives you’re living.
Who This Is For:
Couples therapy can support you if you’re navigating:
recurring conflict cycles you can’t seem to break
shutdown, distance, resentment, or emotional disconnection
trust ruptures and repair after harm
nervous system dysregulation, trauma history, or attachment wounds
neurodivergence and differing needs around communication, intimacy, and sensory load
major life transitions (parenthood, grief, illness, relocation, career stress)
evolution of relating styles that may be catalysed by one or both partner’s shifting gender or sexual orientation
If you’re unsure whether couples therapy is the right fit, reach out — we’ll help you map the most appropriate pathway.
“When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to
him, though the sword hidden among his
pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in
him, though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he
crucify you. Even as he is for your growth
so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and
caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, so shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.”
“Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At the same time, we expect our committed relationships to be romantic as well as emotionally and sexually fulfilling. Is it any wonder that so many relationships crumble under the weight of it all?”
If One Partner Is Already Working With Us
Yes — we’re happy to see couples where one partner is already engaged with The Rewilding Collective.
To protect psychological safety and ensure both partners have adequate support, we ask that the other partner books in for at least one or two individual appointments first before commencing couples sessions.
This helps us establish rapport, understand each person’s context, and set the relationship work up for success.
Booking Instructions
Couples therapy is booked as a “Group” service via our booking link.
This ensures both partners receive the booking alerts and notifications.
If you’re unsure which service to select, contact us and we’ll guide you.
Coherence Without Fragmentation
(Why We Can Hold Individual + Couples Work)
Many psychology practices won’t see each partner separately once couples work begins. That boundary exists for good reason: to reduce the risk of splitting, triangulation, and fragmentation when a clinician is holding multiple perspectives inside a high-charge relational system.
At The Rewilding Collective, our Clinical Director and Founder is an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker - so her unique model of care is explicitly ecological. We are trained to work with people in context: nervous system, attachment, neurobiology, family system, culture, power, history, and environment.
We can hold the murkiness without collapsing into it — and still bring absolute clarity to what’s happening, what’s needed, and what each partner is responsible for.
How We Structure Couples Work
Most couples work best with a repeatable cadence that supports both the relationship and each individual.
Our typical rhythm is:
Individual session — Partner A
Individual session — Partner B
Couples session — together
Then we repeat.
This structure matters.
It gives each partner space to:
integrate new relational structures in their own unique way
work through individual barriers that may not be shared by their partner
build self-regulation and reflective capacity (so the couples session isn’t the only container)
bring clearer insight, accountability, and language back into the relationship
Couples sessions then become a place to practice — not just process.
Why We Get Results (when other therapy attempts have failed)
All therapists, psychologists and counsellors are trained across similar modalities (think CBT, DBT, ACT etc) and learn how to deliver them in a trauma-informed way.
The TRC difference is how we integrate existing tools and frameworks into ancient wisdom traditions using neurobiology, discernment, insight and intuitive strategy.
Many therapy models work across two layers:
the internal architecture (emotion, cognition, memory, identity)
the relational architecture (attachment, boundaries, communication, rupture/repair)
But change often fails for one reason:
Insight arrives - intellectually. And the body doesn’t follow.
So our work includes the missing layer - the conditions under which healing in your relationship becomes real & embodied.
the somatic and existential architecture (regulation, presence, coherence, and the way reality is perceived)
This layer governs:
Perception: what you even believe is possible for you
Coherence: whether your inner world aligns or fragments under pressure
Thresholds: when insight turns into behaviour
Meaning collapse: how experience becomes “this is who I am”
Without this layer:
you can understand the pattern - and still be refusing to take responsibility for your contribution to it (and wanting your partner to ‘wear’ it all!)
you can name the wound - and be unable to shift out of it to change your relating patterns
you can learn new communication skills - and still feel unseen, unheard or unwitnessed in your relationship
We’re here to help you build:
shared language for what’s happening beneath the conflict
practical communication structures (so you can talk without collapsing into threat)
repair protocols (so rupture doesn’t become abandonment)
boundaries, consent, and relational clarity
capacity for intimacy, honesty, and sustainable partnership
We use the Integrated Triadic Convergence (ITC) Model to guide the work — so you’re not just “talking about feelings”, you’re building a shared map for what’s happening within each person, between you, and in the wider ecology of your relationship.
Clear Boundaries:
At TRC, we offer therapy, coaching, supervision & spiritual direction, and have different practitioners who specialise in different modalities. Here is a breakdown of the difference between our offerings. If you’re unsure which container is right, we can help you choose.
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Therapy is clinical care. It is designed to assess and treat mental health concerns and psychological distress, including trauma, anxiety, depression, and complex presentations.
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Clinical Supervision is profession-specific and focused on clinical governance: ethics, scope, risk, case formulation, and safe practice.
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Coaching is non-clinical and future-focused. It supports performance, leadership, decision-making, and sustainable capacity. It is not designed to treat mental health symptoms.
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Spiritual Direction is a reflective, sacred container for meaning, discernment, and spiritual integration. It is not a substitute for clinical mental health care.
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Clinical pastoral supervision integrates theological reflection with philosophical and psychological insights, allowing practitioners to make meaning of their experiences while maintaining safe, ethical, and attuned care. It recognises that pastoral work often involves deep engagement with suffering, existential questions, and human vulnerability, and therefore requires ongoing reflective support.
Frequently Asked Questions:
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Counselling appointments with Querida & Naomi are $180 p/h so the total fee for a 90 minute appointment is $270.
Couples Therapy with Cate, our Clinical Director is $330 p/h, so the total fee for a 90 minute appointment is $495.
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Yes, you can - for individual sessions - but not for the couples sessions.
We accept GP Mental Health Care Plans (sometimes called Treatment Plans). You can email your plan to contact@therewildingcollective.com and we will add it to your file. After 6 appointments, your treating clinician will write to your GP and advise them about your progress. After that, you will need to return to your GP and if it is appropriate, your GP may issue you with an additional referral for 4 more sessions. These sessions last for one calendar year, and can be used with any clinician you choose.
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Not always — for example if you begin as a couple (and not as one of you starting individual therapy).
The individual sessions are optional for couples who choose to begin together. We offer them because our experience is that they create the conditions for deeper, safer couples work by supporting each partner’s regulation, insight, and integration.
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It depends on your goals, the complexity of the pattern, and how much support you want around integration.
Some couples come for targeted support over a short period. Others choose a longer arc to rebuild trust, intimacy, and communication capacity.
Plan to invest in your relationship at the 7 year mark, the 15 year mark, the 21 year mark and the 28-30 year mark. These are the inflection points for relating which call us into new containers - and they can present as rupture cycles, conflict, betrayals or endings.
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Don’t stress! When you get your confirmation text for your appointment time, you can reply and ask for your in-person appointment to be changed to online, and we will send you a link.
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Our clinic operates as a private billing practice and does not provide 24/7 crisis care services. While we strive to offer comprehensive healthcare, we encourage individuals seeking immediate assistance for urgent medical or mental health concerns to contact appropriate emergency services or crisis hotlines.
If you’re experiencing immediate risk, domestic violence, or feel unsafe, couples therapy may not be appropriate as a first step.
Please contact emergency services or local crisis supports. If you’re unsure, reach out — we’ll help you determine the safest next step.
Crisis support contacts:
Crisis Care: 1800 199 008
Lifeline: 13 11 44
Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800
SARC (Sexual Assault Resource Centre): (08) 6458 1828
White Ribbon Helpline: 1800 RESPECT
CAHMS Crisis Connect: 1800 048 636
Ready to change the pattern — not just talk about it?
If you’re both willing to build new structures, we’ll help you create a relationship that can hold truth, tenderness, and repair.